We generally see in others what is found in ourselves.
1. If we live consistently. 1 Peter 1:22 says, " Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfiegned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently:"
Real love involves selfless giving; therefore a self-centered person can't truly love. God's love & forgiveness free you to take your eyes off yourselves and to meet others' needs. Now you can love others by following his example and giving of yoursef sacrificially.
2. Walk humbly. Micah 6:8 says, "He hath showed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?"
People have tried all kinds of ways to please God (6:6-7), but God has made his wishes clear: he wants his people to be fair, just, and merciful, and to walk humbly with him. In your efforts to please God, exaime these areas on a regular basis. Are you fair in your dealings with people? Do you show mercy to those who wrong you? Are you learning humility?
3. Act inidividually - Rom 12:5 says, "So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another."
Paul uses the concept to the human body to teach how Christians should live and work together. Just as the parts of the body function under the direction of the brain, so Christians are to work together under the command and authority of Jesus Christ. (Eph 4:1-16) In 1 Cor 12:12 Paul compared the body of Christ to a human body. Each part has a specific function that is necessary to the body as a whole. The parts are different for a purpose, and in their differences they must work together. Christians must avoid two common errors: (1) being too proud of their abilitites, or (2) thinking they have nothing to give to the body of believers. Instead of comparing ourselves to one another, we must use our different gifts, together, to spread the Good News of salvation.
4. Love heartily. 1 John 3:23 says, "And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment."
In the Bible, a person's name stands for his character. It represents who he really is. We are to believe not only in Jesus' words, but also in his very person as the Son of God. Moreover, to believe "on the name" means to pattern ur life after Christ's, to become more like him by uniting yourself with him.
5. Work personally. Col 4:12 says, "Epaphras, who is one of you, a servant of Christ, saluteth you, always labouring fervently for you in prayers, that ye may stand perfect and complete in all the will of God."
Epaphras found the Colossian church (see 1:7) and his report to Paul in Rome caused Paul to write this letter. Epaphras was a hero of the Colossian church, one of the believers who helped keep the church together in spite of growing troubles. His earnest prayers for the believers show his deep love and concern for them.
6. Help spiritually. Gal 6:1-2 says, "Brethren, if a man be overtaken (trapped) in a fault (sin), ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness (gentleness); considering (watching) thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Bear ye one anothers burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ."
No one should ever think he or she is totally independent and doesn't need help from others, and no one should feel excused from the task of helping. The body of Christ - the universal church - functions only when the members work together for the common good. Is there someone near you who needs help in a task of daily living? Is there a Christian brother or sister who needs correction or encouragement? Humbly and gently reach out to that person. Any who feel they are too busy to help others take their work far too seriously.
John 13:34-35 tells us that we are to love others based on Jesus' sacrificial love for us. Such love will not only bring unbelievers to Christ, it will also keep believers strong and united in a world hostile to God. Jesus was a living example of God's love, as we are to be living examles of Jesus' love.
Jesus says that our Christlike love will show we are his disciples. Do people see petty bickering, jealousy, and division in your church? Or do they know you are Jesus' followers by your love for one another.
7. Forgive Christly. Eph 4:32 says, "And be ye kind one to another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."
This is Christ's law of forgiveness as taught in the Gospels (Matt 6:14-45;18:35; Mark 11:25). We also see it in the Lord's prayer - "forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtor's," God does not forgive us because we forgive others, but out of his great mercy. As we come to understand his mercy, however, we will want to be like him. Having received forgiveness, we will pass it on to others. Those who are unwilling to forgive have not become one with Christ, who was willing to forgive even those who crucified him. (Luke 23:34)
We can cause the Holy Spirit sorrow by the way we love. Paul warns us against bad language, meanness, improper use of anger, quarrels, harsh words and bad attitudes towards others. Instead of acting that way, we should be forgiving, just as God has forgiven us. Are you grieving or pleasing God with your attitudes and actions. Act in love towards your brothers and sisters in Christ, just as God acted in love by sending his Son to die for your sins.
Have you been living, walking, acting, loving, working, helping and forgiving the way God wishes for you do do? God's easy to please and he is waiting on your call!